Joe Joe Asked: dealing with intense loneliness..?

or so it seems like that. we are 21 year old twins, he is at college and i left a year ago to pursue my dreams of traveling. call me dumb but its what i've always wanted.

anyways, in the past few years we have had arguments/disagreements.

however in the past year since coming home from school, i have had a hard time making friends. he knows i have no friends, yet he chooses not to talk to me.

he always says the way i've acted in the past is reason for him not talking to me. that was well over a year ago when i was a closeminded prick..

im totally different now and have been for months.. im not perfect tho.
lately when i get mad, it is because my situation sucks. no friends, questioning my life, weakening faith etc. im just sick of us talking working on being closer, but then when the weekend is over and he goes back to school, he doesn't text at all! (i try and text but he never does)

whos fault is this

OrangeTicTac Asked: Girlfriend help? *no idea what to call it*?

Okay, where to begin? well.. first im 15, she is 16 (we're young… feel free to facepalm already), and we've been together for 10 months now. She recently moved 3 hours away, and now everytime she comes down to see me she always want to have sex. This is going to sound weird, but i do like having sex. It isn't her, its just i don't enjoy anything… on top of that, i only get to see her every few weeks for maybe 5 hours. Lately when she asks to have sex, i dont want to, and i say no… we do have sex every now and then, but i dont want to have it constantly.. The last two times she asked and i declined, she got really mad, and i ended up just being next to her crying, while she ignores me.. Last time when i went to walk her home (old house) i cried the whole time as she ignored me, and she said "if you're just going to cry every time i come down, then im going to stop coming down"….

So, this morning she texted me, telling me she had a dream where she had sex with with white kid at her new school..She said "The kid is a Manwhore, and u never have sex with me"…
Ive just been depressed all day, and she is acting like nothing happened… Next time she comes down i know she will want sex, and i dont want it… because it always just ends up with me being ignored and crying alone….

Could i just get some opinions or something? i have no clue what to think….
She claims that she isn't just using me for sex, but thats how i feel. i just want some time with her, without sex.

15 year old male doesnt want sex? yeah.. im weird….

Jazmine Asked: Am I eating to much??

This morning I had a chocolate chip cookie
for lunch I had about 15 grapes and a bite of a tuna wrap
when I get home from school thats when I start eating and can't seem to stop.
I had a weight watcher ice cream bar
a half cup of Lipton iced tea
about 29 golfish snacks
I left home and ate 2 dum dums
I got back and ate 2 grilled cheeses
about an hour later I had some chicken noodle soup a cup of low calorie soda and more iced tea
just now (four hours after eating the soup) I had a peice of blueberry cheesecake but I scraped the blueberries off and now I'm not hungry anymore
I feel like I am eating way to much for a 17 year old girl, dont you think so? Is this normal… I doubt it, I feel like a pig. Uhhh

Sara Asked: What is a mother, someone who loves or someone who takes care?

I have always wondered about this, because Im caught in the situation.When I was a baby my birth mom left and I never saw her again.There was a woman named Anita who began to take care of me that my dad hired, and I grew up with her from when I was 1 yr old to around 7 or 8.She always showed me love and compassion and took me everywhere, and I pretty much became like family to her and her family, but she never really corrected me.She let me do whatever I wanted and my sister says thats why I love her which I dont believe is really true.When I was about 7 my dad remarried to Glenn my step-mom.Since Glenn took care of me Anita no longer did.Glenn was however really strict and never let me socialize.I never went to dances or joined clubs or sports, so growing up I never had any friends.I would come home clean, do homework, and go to bed.Anita and I still where close and I would spend the night at her house sometimes the whole weekend and she never charged my dad for that.After middle school we grew a part and years went by I didnt speak to her.Then my senior year I decided to call her because I felt really lonely, from how I was being treated.Aside for emotional Glenn was also physically abusive, hitting and pulling hair.Anita welcomed me with open arms and we have never been closer.Glen wasnt always there emotionally, but physically.She taught me morals and values, and its because of her that I have a faith in the lord and am going to college persuading a career.So I ask you what is a mother someone who loves you and treats you with compassion or someone who takes care of you and teaches you values?

ifeelmeh Asked: Feeling of not belonging anywhere?

I'm a 24 year old guy trying to make new friends. I tried to get in the conversation with my co-workers at work. I said something that didn't make sense to them and they gave me some weird looks. I felt embarrassed and awkward. I don't have a lot of friends when I come home. I don't know where to look to socialize.

Any suggestions? Has this happened to you?

Casey May Asked: My new baby Eclectus is nippy, is this normal?

I've just brought home my 13 week old eclectus and she was really nice and calm & cuddly the first two days, but the last three days she has been nippy and fluffs her feathers up and lunges out whenever I go near the cage. Is this normal? I know she is telling me to back off so what do I do? I want to get her used to us and keep her used to being held. I've tried offering her treats through the cage but she just keeps lunging at me, she wont take the treat.

Jake Asked: How to deal with peer pressure to drink?

Okay basically i am in a situation i am uncomfortable with:
I am away from from home during the week in loughborough, about 4 hours away from home and my lovely girlfriend, whom i love very much. I am training with an apprenticeship and it earns me good money, but the other guys on the course are always nagging me to "Go to the pub", "come out tonight", and when i decline they just nag all the more. I dont like alcohol, It's not because i have a religion that forbids it but i just genuinely dont like it, i like to be in control of my actions fully, but this never seems to be a good enough reason not to them. My girlfriend doesnt drink either, so when im at home i feel relaxed, but when im back up there im alone with nobody to back me up, and recently, i cracked under the peer pressure, and even though i didnt get completely wasted, i had gone against what i believe in and my girlfriend was very disappointed in me. I promised her that i'd never do it again.

I feel guiltbecause i feel really unsociable towards the other guys, but in a way, i dont really want to be their good friend, i joined the apprenticeship to get a career and money, so i can eventually move out with my girlfriend live happily, not to make friends with people im not keen on
I like time to myself,i love walking and swimming, this appears to be completely alien to the others, as apparently all 18 year old men should drink.

I will be away from home alot for the next two years and i'd much rather it be a pleasant two years than one that is constantly a fight for what I believe in.

I always feel awkward when i have to be around them, they just don't see it from my point of view, any help please?